“In keeping of the I (eye) empty a miracle can happen in a parent-child relationship. Mark Nepo , poet and teacher, in his book, “The Book Of Awakening “ says, “it’s not by chance that the dark center of the human eye, the pupil, is actually an empty hole through which the world becomes known to us.” The Upanishads also tell us that in the center of the seed of the great Nyagrodha” there is nothing, and out of that nothing a great tree grows .”Reading this I am reminded , of young children and I also become aware that from an early age we are taught that to live fully is to be accepted and that we need to be seen. As much as we want to be seen happens in the minds of young children, a child will do anything, even if it means seeking negative attention.

Therefore, our job as parents is to give our complete attention and presence to the needs of our child by listening to his/ her words, to get off of our devices and be fully present when interacting with our child . Our chief work also becomes, in a very sincere effort, to“ allow that central presence to be always there to understand, guide, direct, boost, hold, and be there for our child.” this happens only when we are 100% present and aware of our thresholds.” research has proven that a deeper reflection of self understanding “helps us connect to our child in a positive and stronger way”.

The noise and din of the world moves us away from self reflection, but Mindfulness helps us stay in the present moment.. The whole idea is to respond in flexible ways to the needs of your child. Time spent with your child must be enjoyed, valued, and loved and not just managed. It’s not an easy task, but it eases a lot of frustrations and stress.