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Specially mentioned by Ervin Laszlo, in his book Science And The Akashic Field. Akash is a Sanskrit word meaning ether , the ultimate space. He explains how information and communication connects everything to everything else. Therefore, one of the goals of a parent must be to set a tone, by using good words to establish good communication for positive family dynamics. You will be amazed how the deepest things are intangible, says the poet and teacher Mark Nepo. He goes on to say the things, only worth saying, are precious words and have a good communication with your child, it is a habit. “Say Less Say it Right.” The message to your child should be as clear as water, “I see you. I am here!” just like the African bushmen greet each other.

How we use words with our child is the key to a trusting relationship. A recipe of give and take signals between parent and child is called “contingent communication”which means the signals sent by the child are clearly understood and responded to by a parent. In simple words responsivity is very important as mentioned in the questionnaire called Ages and Stages, which is used by Early Childhood Specialist during interviews with parents. It checks five areas of responsiveness, and means that a parent and child feel good when all interactions which are respectful to each other.

When a child does not feel understood, little things can become big issues, say experts. This leads to negative attention seeking and bad behavior. Words like “I’ll be back”. “ I will attend to you in a minute.” “I need a few minutes to think about it,” have a totally different outcome in a parent child interaction.

The choice of words and tone of voice sets the stage for a wonderful relationship. It is important not to miss daily opportunities for listening and responding appropriately. Brother Phap Huu says that for “us adults there is a constant radio in our heads. We need to switch that off and be fully present when interacting with our child.”Good role modeling and communication will require less words, less reaction, less arguing, less stress and a peaceful and calm home environment and will help parents skillfully, calmly and joyfully navigate this journey called life. Let’s try to remember the beautiful song we learned when in preschool and kindergarten “Row, Row, Row your boat gently down the streammerrily,merrily, merrily life is but a dream.