Self-esteem or self-worth is one of the greatest assets that a human being must have, the way we show up really counts. This is a gift which you, as a parent can give to your child starting early on so that your child does not feel less than anyone. Skin color ,birthplace , birth family, schooling , the community we live in or what profession we choose in our lives whether we are short or tall, thin or fat should never determine how worthy or unworthy we feel about ourselves. Parents play a big role in boosting self esteem.
What I’m trying to say is that how you raise and interact with your child is how you lay a firm foundation of this asset called self-esteem. You must be mindful in planting and watering the good seeds of self esteem.
In the podcast The Way Out Is In
Episode # 71 Ancient Path For Modern Times: Feeling Safe
Sister TD speaks to this. She says
“To have a deep, compassionate quality of presence with your family,” which includes your child too, is the key. She explains how we perceive ourselves shifts the energy field.
In my posts I have included the steps on how to nourish self-esteem and self-worth in your child. The screening called “Home Inventory” mentions positive
words your child needs to hear from you on a daily basis. For example “I am so happy to be your mom/dad.” your child needs to know that he or she does not have to be perfect to be loved , that love is unconditional. Your child needs to know from you that they are enough as they are and no matter what, you are always there for them. Loving words, always stick. Your positive words will shape your child’s self esteem. I have met many adults in my life who feel so unworthy no matter how talented they may be because they were made to feel insignificant. By building, strong connections and being attuned to your child and recognizing their strengths and weaknesses you will boost their self-esteem. Life is a learning process , your child learns to see himself through your eyes.